selfcare

How to destress in under 60 seconds

Modern life is undeniably full on and somehow as a society we seem to glorify those who never seem to stop. But this ‘sleep when I’m dead’ stuff has serious ramifications. If we don’t tend to our health – and I’m talking emotional, energetic and mental health as well as our physical body, we run the risk of falling into a heap when life tosses us a curve ball. Curve balls come in all sorts of forms – illness, work stress, relationship issues, and even fabulous things like getting a promotion or falling pregnant. We need to find ways to boost our resilience in the face of these inevitable stressors of life. I’d go even one step further – we need to engage in self-care because it is the cornerstone of happiness and wellbeing, and the means by which we become the kind of people we aspire to be. There is nothing selfish about that.

3 ways to destress in less than 60 seconds:

  • Use the mantra: ‘I give myself permission to…’ you fill in the blank. For me, I like to pop in the word ‘rest’. It’s amazing the strife we cause ourselves by resisting the way that we feel, denying what we need or just plain wanting things to be different than they are. Use this mantra to create a little more space around your feelings or to free yourself up from guilt about particular actions. Do what you need to do. Allow yourself to feel as you do. This will diminish your stress.
  • Zoom in on beauty or something you find captivating. Take a 60 second break from worry, rumination, problem solving or just plain stressing and take a close look at something awe-inspiring. I love to zoom in on the tiny hairs on my little boys face – helps me restrain from wringing his sweet little neck 🙂 Or gaze on natural beauty around you. Seek it out, get absorbed in it and feel how it transforms your mood.
  • Get anchored in your body. When you begin to feel flooded by stress hormones or anger, stop and get connected to your physical body. Feel your feet on the floor, your legs if you are standing and elongate your spine. Seek out areas of tension – you are likely to find it in your forehead, eyes, jaw, shoulders, neck and hands. Soften any clenching you find. Next, feel your breathing. See if you can relax into the sensation of breathing and allow your breath to move freely through you. Notice how just anchoring your attention on your body and breath can help you disentangle yourself from stress.

 Repeat after me: self-care isn’t selfish.

Much love,

Suz xx

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Who’s on your team? We all need one!

Beat stress by turning to your team of angels

To get you thinking I’ll let you know who’s on mine: a walking companion, yoga buddies, a kind ear, a mindfulness friend, my osteopath, a beauty therapist, coffee mates, playground pals, a brainstormer and sometimes devils advocate, and a cheer squad – on social media and in real life (both have their value!)

I think of them as my team of angels: people who keep me honest on my path, who lift me up when I’m flagging, who inspire me, challenge me and celebrate my wins with me.

Having a team is not about outsourcing your replenishment but identifying kindred spirits to share the journey with and providing mutual support where possible. It is also recognising when we do need help from others and it helps to identify those people before crisis hits. Get these angels on speed dial and prioritise your selfcare when times get tough.

If you’ve recently relocated maybe you need some fresh local faces on your team. Get out there and talk to people. Who from your old team can you connect with in different ways? Technology can be a wonderful tool! Regardless of physical location you can remain in each others’ corner. Thank God for skype! Believe me, we can even use it to yoga together!

We need other people and other people need us. Write down who’s on your team and make plans to connect. Who’s team are you on? Reach out and be of service to others too. Connection feeds the soul, take a look around you and plug in.

Thanks for being on my team! I relish being on yours.
Suz xx

P.S. Want to know who’s on my team of angels here in Berkhamsted and Tring?

I have a tried and trusted set of practitioners I turn to myself and can recommend wholeheartedly to you. From acupuncture to osteopathy. Get in touch if you’d like to know more about my local team of angels. We’ll get you flourishing again!

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